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Parent coaching their own child during drinks breaks

Asked by TouchlineTom7
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One parent is actually quiet during the game, but every time their son comes off they take him to one side and give him a list of instructions. He then goes back on looking at them constantly. Is that something the team coach should step into?

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Yes, I would step in, because the drinks break is still part of the child’s match environment. The parent may genuinely think they are helping, but the effect you describe is important: he goes back on checking the touchline instead of playing what he sees. I’d speak privately and keep it non-confrontational. Explain that the coaches are deliberately trying to reduce instructions and that the break is mainly for the child to recover, not receive a second team talk. Give the parent something positive to do instead: ask whether he is enjoying it, tell him you liked his effort, help with his drink. I would not correct the parent in front of the player unless it is unavoidable. The bigger principle is consistency. If the coach is asking children to make decisions, but a parent gives them six instructions every time they come off, the child is being pulled in two directions.

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Aisha58

Coach

Yes, I would step in. If the child gets two team talks every time he comes off, he has no chance of just processing the game himself.
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FridayFeeling7

Parent

As a parent I can see how easy this is to do. You finally get your child next to you and think it is the perfect chance to help. A quiet word from the coach would probably be enough.
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ChrisW

Parent

if a coach told me privately id be fine with it. much better than my kid getting different instructions and me not realising im causing it.
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EmJ84

Coach

Drinks break should sometimes just be a drinks break.
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SuffolkAlex

Club Volunteer / Official

We put this into our matchday message: when they come off, let them recover first. It stopped the assistant-parent team talks happening all along the touchline.

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