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Should U13 parents be told about playing-time expectations before the season?

Asked by ChloeOnline
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We had a lot of frustration last year because some families assumed equal minutes and the coach thought everyone understood that competition increases with age. Would you set out the playing-time approach in writing before the season starts?

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UEFA B Coach

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Yes, I would make the club’s approach clear before the season starts. The biggest problems usually come when families and coaches are working from different assumptions. For 9v9, current guidance still prioritises equal game time and describes at least 50% as best practice. A club can explain how it intends to manage rolling substitutions, attendance, injuries and different match situations while still keeping development central. I would avoid language like “competition now means some children will barely play”. That can create anxiety before the season begins. Instead, explain the principles: how minutes are monitored, what players can expect, and how coaches will communicate if a pattern changes. Parents do not need guarantees for every single match. They do need to know what the adults are trying to be fair and consistent about.

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LeftBootOnly7

Community Member

Our policy says every player should receive meaningful game time across a block, with the coaches reviewing patterns monthly. It stops one unusual game becoming the whole argument.
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LowBattery

Community Member

Do you publish the actual minutes?
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LF_78

Community Member

The wording has to be careful though. You can be honest about competition without giving yourself a blank cheque to ignore development.
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LastTrain7

Community Member

Exactly. 'We cannot guarantee identical minutes' is reasonable. 'There are no expectations at all now' is not.
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KentRob

Community Member

I would rather know before signing than find out in October that 'competitive football' means my child gets fifteen minutes.
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KateL

Community Member

We tell families the principle before the season and track minutes internally. It has made hard conversations much easier.
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HannahP

Community Member

Please put the playing-time approach in writing. Most arguments come from people believing a different promise was made.